Self-Help Books

 

 

Topics:

ADHD/ADD

Adolescents: Books for Adolescents about Adolescence

Aging/Caring for Parents

Alcoholism: Addiction and Recovery

Alcoholism: Adult Child of Alcoholics and Codependency

AIDS

Anger

Anxiety/ Test Anxiety/ Relaxation/ Stress

Autobiographies on Mental Health Issues

Body Image

Communication Skills

Death and Dying/ Grief and Loss

Depression

Divorce/ Breaking Up

Domestic Violence

Eating Disorders

Illness (Chronic Illness & Chronic Pain)

Infertility/ Childlessness

Internet Addiction/Obsession

LGBT Issues

Manic Depression (Bipolar Disorder)

Menopause

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

Panic Disorder

Parenting

Perfectionism

Phobias

Procrastination

Relationships

Schizophrenia

Self-Esteem

Sexuality: Sexual Issues in Relationships

Sexual Abuse: Adults Abused as Children

Sexual Addiction

Sexual Assault/ Rape

Sexual Harassment

Shyness/ Social Phobia

Spiritual Issues/ Confusion

Stepfamilies

Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Work Issues/Vocational Stress

 

ADHD/ADD

 

Barkley, R. (1997) Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents.

Guilford.

 

Hallowell, E. M. & Ratey, J. J. (1995).  Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and

Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood Though Adulthood.

Touchstone Books., $12.00.

 

Kolberg, J. & Nadeau, K (2002). ADD- Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life.

Brunner-Routledge. $21.95.

   

Adolescents: Books for Adolescents about Adolescence

Gordon, S. (1981). The Teenage Survival Book. Time Books.

Packer, A. (1993). Bringing up Parents: The Teenager's Handbook. Free Spirit Publishing.

 

Aging/Caring for Aging Parents

Berman, C. (1996). Caring for Yourself While Caring for Your Aging Parents: How to Help, How to Survive. Henry Holt.

Larson, D. G. (1993). The Helper's Journey: Working with People Facing Grief, Loss, and Life-Threatening Illness. Research Press.

McLeod, B. (1999). Caregiving: The Spiritual Journey of Love, Loss and Renewal. John Wiley and Sons, Inc.

 

Alcoholism: Addiction and Recovery

Milam, James Robert, & K. Ketcham. Under the Influence: A Guide to the Myths and Realities of Alcoholism. Seattle: Madrona Publishers, 1981.

Schaefer, Dick. Choices and Consequences. Minneapolis, MN: Johnson Institute, 1987.

 

Alcoholism: Adult Children of Alcoholics and Codependence

·         Beattie, Melody. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. San Francisco: Hazelden, 1987.

·         Black, Claudia. It Will Never Happen to Me. Denver: M.A.C. Printing and Publ., 1981.

·         Cermak, Timmen, & J. Rutzky. A Time to Heal Workbook: Stepping-Stones to Recovery for Adult Children of Alcoholics. New York: Putnam, 1994.

·         Mellody, Pia. Facing Codependence. San Francisco: Harper and Row, 1989.

·         Woititz, Janet.Struggle for Intimacy. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1985.

 

AIDS

·         Sontag, S. AIDS and Its Metaphors. New York: Farrar, Straus, and Giroux, 1989.

Anger

Lerner, Harriett. The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships. New York: Harper Perennial, 1985.

 

McKay, M., et al., (1989). When Anger Hurts. New Harbinger. $13.95

          - Good for understanding anger + techniques to deal with anger

Tavris, Carol. Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion. New York: Touchstone Books, 1989.

 

Anxiety/ Test Anxiety/ Relaxation / Stress

Antony, Martin & Norton, Peter (2008.) The Anti-Anxiety Workbook: Proven Strategies to Overcome Worry, Phobia, Panic, and Obsessions, Guilford, $1995.

Bourne, Edmund J. (1995). The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook. New Harbinger. $17.95.

          - Good book for folks with generalized anxiety and phobias

Borysenko, Joan. Minding the Body, Mending the Mind. New York: Addison Wesley, 1987.

  Davis, M., et al. (2000), The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook, New Harbinger, $19.95.

-       Classic book on relaxation

  Fiore, N. & Pescar, S. C. (1987).  Conquering Test Anxiety:  How to Psyche Up For The AST, GRE, GMAT, LSAT, MCAT or Any Other Standardized Test.  Warner Books. $6.95.

-This title is deceiving in that the book is excellent for general test anxiety.  Dr. Fiore used to work at the UC Berkeley Counseling Center and so is familiar with college students. 

·         Isaacs, Mark. Living with Fear: Understanding and Coping with Anxiety. New York: McGraw Hill, 1978.

·         Jeffers, Susan. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. San Diego, CA: Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, 1987. (especially good for career issues)

·         Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. New York: Dell, 1990. (based on the principles of mindfulness and breathing, with particular emphasis on managing chronic pain)

·         O'Hara, Valerie. Five Weeks to Healing Stress: The Wellness Option. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1996. (an excellent workbook, with charts for recording progress)

·         Sapolsky, Robert. Why Zebras Don¼t Get Ulcers. New York: W. H. Freeman, 1994. (an explanation of how stress affects the body and mind, based on scientific research)  

Wilson, R. Reid. Don't Panic: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks. New York: Harper and Row, 1986.  
 

Autobiographies On Mental Health Issues

 

Blauner, Susan Rose. How I Stayed Alive When My Brain Was Trying to Kill Me.

 

Jamison, Kay. An Unquiet Mind.

- bipolar disorder

 

Kaysen, Susanna. Girl Interrupted.

          - Suicide.

 

Knapp, Caroline. Drinking- A love Story

 

Styron, William. Darkness Visible

          - 100 pages, quick read. (depression)

 

 

Body Image

 

Cash, Thomas (1997). The Body Image Workbook: An 8-step Program for Learning to Like Your Looks.

-An internationally recognized authority on body image shows readers how to combat destructive and unhealthy attitudes towards their physical appearance. The eight-step program developed by Thomas Cash shows readers how to evaluate a negative body image, change self-defeating "private body talk", and create a more pleasurable, affirming relationship with the body. Illustrations, charts and tables.   

 

Communication Skills

         Bolton, Robert. People Skills: How to Assert Yourself, Listen to Others, and Resolve Conflicts. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1986.

·         McKay, Matthew, M. Davis, & P. Fanning. Messages: The Communication Book. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1995.

·         Wile, Daniel. After the Honeymoon: How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship. New York: Wiley, 1988. (aimed at communication between couples)  


Death and Dying / Grief and Loss

Aker, Lois (1993). How to Survive the Loss of a Parent: A Guide for Adults.

- Therapist Lois Aker explains why the loss of a parent is different from other losses and, using examples from her experience, shows how it is possible to work through the grief.

·        Goulding, Mary. A Time to Say Good-Bye: Moving Beyond Loss. Watsonville, CA: Papier-Mache Press, 1996. (for widows and widowers)

·         Grollman, Earl. Talking About Death: A Dialogue Between Parent and Child. Boston: Beacon Press: 1989. (for parents, to help their children deal with death)

·         Ilse, S. Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death. 1990.

·         Kubler Ross, Elizabeth. On Death and Dying. New York: MacMillan, 1969.

·        Rando, Therese. How to Go on Living When Someone You Love Dies. New York: Bantam, 1988.

 

Depression

Bloomfield, H. H. (1995).  How To Heal Depression. Prelude Press $6.95. 

-  Great historical quotes provide a sense of universality.  Reported helpful by clients.

Burns, David D., (1999), Feeling Good, Avon Books, $7.99.

          - Classic book using cognitive style

Burns, David D. (1989). The Feeling Good Handbook, Plume.

Copeland, Mary Ellen (1992). The Depression Workbook. New Harbinger, $19.95.

-       for depression and bipolar disorder

-       focuses nicely on lifestyle changes

Greenberger, D. & Padesky, C. (1995), Mind Over Mood., Guilford, $19.95.

-       A workbook on depression using the cognitive style. Excellent book- worth the cost

Seligman, Martin. Learned Optimism. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1991.

Seligman, Martin. The Optimistic Child: A Proven Program to Safeguard Children Against Depression and Build Lifelong Resilience. New York: HarperCollins, 1996.

 

Divorce/ Breaking up

·         Ahrons, Constance R. The Good Divorce. New York: HarperCollins, 1994.

·         Amodeo, John. Love and Betrayal: Broken Trust in Intimate Relationships. New York: Ballantine Books, 1994.

·         Anderson, Carol M.Flying Solo: Single Women in Midlife. New York: W. W. Norton, 1994.

Bloomfield, H. H., Colgrove, M., & McWilliams, P. (2000).  How to Survive The Loss of a Love.  Mary Books/Prelude Press.  $6.95 

-       Great historical quotes provides a sense of universality. 

·         Fisher, Bruce. ReBuilding: When Your Relationship Ends. San Luis Obispo, CA: Impact, 1981.

·         Hayes, Christopher, Anderson, D. and Blau, Melinda. Our Turn: The Good News about Women and Divorce. New York, CA:Pocket Books, 1993.(Aimed at women over 40 who are going through divorce. How divorce can be a catalyst for self-discovery, change and growth.)

·         Kingma, Daphne Rose. Coming Apart: Why Relationships End and How to Live Through the Ending of Yours. New York: Fawcett , 1989.

·         McKay, Matthew. The Divorce Book: A Practical and Compassionate Guide. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1984. (an ideal guide for anyone who is going through a divorce, written by two psychologists, a lawyer, and an educator)

·         Wolf, Anthony. Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce? And When Can I Get a Hamster?: A Guide to Parenting Through Divorce. NY, Noonday Press, 1998.

 

Domestic Violence

·         Ackerman, Robert. Before It's Too Late: Helping Women in Controlling or Abusive Relationships. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications Inc., 1995.

·         Enns, Greg, & J. Black. It's Not Okay Anymore:Your Personal Guide to Ending Abuse, Taking Charge, and Loving Yourself. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1997.

·         Forward, Susan. Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them. New York: Bantam, 1987.

 

Eating Disorders

·         Mellin, Laurel. The Solution: 6 Winning Ways to Permanent Weight Loss. New York: HarperCollins, 1997. (for people who have trouble controlling their food cravings)

·         Roth, Geneen.When Food is Love: Exploring the Relationship Between Eating and Intimacy. New York: NAL-Dutton, 1991.

·         Roth, Geneen. Feeding the Hungry Heart. Indianapolis, IN: Bobbs-Merrill, 1982.

·         Zerbe, Kathryn. The Body Betrayed: A Deeper Understanding of Women, Eating Disorders, and Treatment. Washington, D.C: American Psychiatric Press, 1993.

 

Illness (Chronic illness and Chronic pain)

·         Topf, Linda, & H. Z. Bennett. You are not Your Illness: Seven Principles for Meeting the Challenge of Illness. Edgartown, MA: S & S Publishers, 1995.

·         Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. New York: Dell, 1990.

·         Kane, Jeff. Be Sick Well: A Healthy Approach to Chronic Illness. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1991.

·         Klein, Robert, & M. Landau. Healing the Body Betrayed: A Self-Paced, Self Help Guide to Regaining Psychological Control of Your Chronic Illness. Minnetonka, MN: Chronimed, 1992.

·         Larson, Dale G. The Helper¼s Journey: Working with People Facing Grief, Loss, and Life-Threatening Illness. Champaign, IL: Research Press, 1993.

·         LeMaistre, Joanne. Beyond Rage. Oak Park, IL: Alpine Guild, 1985

 

Infertility/ Childlessness

·         Anton, Linda Hunt. Never to be a Mother: A Guide for All Women Who Didn't or Couldn't Have Children. San Francisco: Harper SanFrancisco, 1992.

 

Internet Addiction/ Obsession

 

Young, Kimberly (1998). Caught in the Net: How to Recognize the Signs of

  Internet Addiction—and a Winning Strategy for Recovery, Wiley, $34.95.

 

 

LGBT Issues

 

·         Bass, Ellen, & K. Kaufman. Free Your Mind: The Book for Gay, Lesbian, and Bisexual Youth and Their Allies. New York: Harper Perennial, 1996.

·         Bernstein, Robert A. Straight Parents, Gay Children: Keeping Families Together. New York: Harcourt Brace,1998. (Written by a P-FLAG parent - Parents and Friends of Gays and Lesbians).

Borhek, Mary (1993).  Coming Out to Parents: A Two Way Survival Guide for Lesbians and Gay Men and Their Parents.. 

·         Fairchild, Betty, & N. Hayward. Now That You Know:What Every Parent Should Know About Homosexuality. New York: Harcourt Brace Jovanovich, 1998.

Howard, Kim & Stevens, Annie (Eds.) (2000), Out and About Campus. Personal Accounts by Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered College Students.

-         This book offers a collection of 28 essays written by GLBT college students from across the U.S. The essays are first-person accounts of the students' experiences in adjusting to academic life. As a whole, the accounts are thoughtful, insightful, and moving, and offer support to others facing similar issues.

·         Johnson, Bret K. Coming Out Every Day: A Gay, Bisexual and Questioning Man's Guide. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, 1998.

·         Kaufman, Gershen, & L. Raphail. Coming Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives. New York: Doubleday, 1996.

·         McDaniel, Judith. The Lesbian Couples' Guide. New York: Harper Perennial, 1995. (examines issues such as setting boundaries, power, parenting, opening the closet doors, etc.)

·         Marcus, Eric. Is It a Choice? San Francisco: HarperSan Francisco, 1993. (honest and compassionate answers to 300 of the most frequently asked questions about gays and lesbians)

 

Manic Depression (Bipolar Disorder)

·         Jamison, Kay Redfield. An Unquiet Mind. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1995. (an autobiography of a psychologist who is diagnosed with manic depression)

·         Vien, Enid. Mood Swings. La Mesa, CA: Dynamism Publications, 1997.

·         Copeland, Mary Ellen. Living Without Depression and Manic Depression: A Workbook for Maintaining Mood Stability. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1994.

 

Menopause

·         Barbach, Lonnie. The Pause: A Positive Approach to Menopause. New York: Penguin Books, 1995.

·         Boston Women's Health Book Collective. The New Our Bodies Ourselves. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1984.

·         Doress, Paula, & D. Siegal. Ourselves, Growing Older. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1987.

·         Greenwood, Sadja. Menopause Naturally. Volcano, CA: Volcano Press, 1992.

·         Greer, Germaine. The Change. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1992.

·         Love, Susan. Dr. Susan Love's Hormone Book: Making Informed Choices About Menopause. New York: Random House, 1997.

·         O'Hanlan, Katherine. Natural Menopause. New York: Addison Wesley, 1992.

·         Pearl, Bill. Getting Stronger. Bolinas, CA: Shelter Publications, 1986.

·         Sheehy, Gail. Silent Passage: Menopause. New York: Random House, 1992.

·         Taylor, Dena, & A. Sumrall. Women of the 14th Moon. Freedom, CA: The Crossing Press, 1991.

·         Wolfe, Honora Lee. Second Spring: A Guide to Healthy Menopause Through Traditional Chinese Medicine. Boulder, CO: Blue Poppy Press, 1990.

 

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

 ·         Baer, Lee. Getting Control: Overcoming Your Obsessions and Compulsions. New York: Little Brown, 1991.

·         Dumont, Raeann. The Sky is Falling: Understanding and Coping with Phobias, Panic, and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders. New York: W. W. Norton, 1996.

. Foa, Edna & Wilson, Reid (2001).  Stop Obsessing . Bantam. $14.95.

          - A great book on the topic. Lots of good techniques.

·         Rapaport, Judith. The Boy Who Couldn't Stop Washing: The Experience and Treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. New York: E. P. Dutton, 1989.

·         Steketee, Fail, & K. White. When Once is Not Enough: Help for Obsessive Complusives. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1990.  

 

Panic Disorder

Barlow, David & Craske, Michelle (2006.) Mastery of Your Anxiety and Panic Workbook (Treatments that Work), Oxford University Press, $31.95.

Wilson, Reid. (2009.) Don't Panic: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks, Collins Living, $17.99.

Zuercher-White, E. (1995). An End to Panic. New Harbinger. $17.95.

          - Excellent workbook.

 

Parenting

·         Faber, Adele, & E. Mazlish. How to Talk So Kids will Listen and Listen So Kids will Talk. New York: Avon, 1980.

·         Faber, Adele, & E. Mazlish. Siblings Without Rivalry. New York: MacMillan, 1987.

·         Riera, Michael. Uncommon Sense for Parents of Teens. Berkeley, CA: Celestial Arts, 1995.

·         Turecki, Stanley, & L. Tonner. The Difficult Child. New York: Bantam, 1989. (practical advice for parents of hard-to-raise children)

·         Wolf, Anthony. It's Not Fair: Jeremy Spencer's Parents Let Him Stay Up All Night. New York: Farrar, Strauss and Giroux, 1995.

 

Perfectionism

 Antony, M. & Swinson, R.P. (1998). When Perfect Isn’t Good Enough: Strategies for Coping with Perfectionism. New Harbinger. $14.95.

  ·         Hendlin, Steven. When Good Enough is Never Enough: Escaping the Perfection Trap. New York: Jeremy Tarcher, 1992.

·         Mallinger, Allan, & J. DeWyze. Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control. New York: Clarkson Potter, 1992.

·         Elliott, Miriam, & S. Meltsner. The Perfectionist Predicament: How to Stop Driving Yourself and Others Crazy. New York: William Morrow, 1991.

 

Phobias

·         Brown, Duane. Flying Without Fear. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1996.

·         Dumont, Raeann. The Sky is Falling: Understanding and Coping with Phobias, Panic, and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders. New York: W. W. Norton, 1996.

·         Pathway Systems has good audio tapes by R. Reid Wilson on conquering the fear of flying. Telephone number: 1-800-349-2299.

 

Procrastination

·         Burka, Jane, & L. Yuen. Procrastination: Why You Do It, What to Do About It. Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley, 1983.

·         Fiore, Neil. The Now Habit. Los Angeles: Jeremy Tarcher, 1989.

·         Roberts, Susan M. Living Without Procrastination: How to Stop Postponing Your Life. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1995.

 

Relationships

 Abrahms-Spring, Janis (1996).  After the Affair.  HarperPerennial.  $14.00 (RA)

-       Non-religious book to help couples cope with an affair.

·         Bader, Ellyn, & P. Pearson. In Quest of the Mythical Mate.New York: Brunner-Mazel, 1988. (describes the developmental stages of marriage)

Cowan, Connell & Kinder, Melvyn (1986.) Smart Women, Foolish Choices, Signet, $7.99. (Written by two male psychologists. A bestseller.)

·         Evans, Patricia. The Verbally Abusive Relationship. Holbrook, MA: Adams Publishing, 1992.

·         Gottman, John. Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1994.

·         Gottman, John. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Crown Publishers, 1999.

Gottman, John & DeClaire, Joan (2002). The Relationship Cure: A Five Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships.

- John Gottman, a psychologist and leading researcher in relationships, offers an empirically supported program for improving relationships of all kinds. Gottman demonstrates the importance of recognizing key relationship cues and then responding to these cues effectively.

·         Gray, John. Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. New York: HarperCollins, 1992.

·         Hendrix, Harville. Getting the Love You Want. New York: Henry Holt, 1988. (how and why we choose our partners, and how to heal relationship conflict)

·         Halpern, Howard. Finally Getting It Right: From Addictive/Obsessive Relationships to Healthy Ones. New York: Bantam, 1995.

Kasl, Charlotte (1999). If the Buddha dated: A handbook for Finding Love on a Spiritual Path, Penguin Books, $12.00.

Kasl, Charlotte (2001). If the Buddha married: Creating Enduring Relationships on a Spiritual Path, Penguin Books, $12.00.

Kirshenbaum, Mira (1997.)  Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A step by step guide to help you decide whether to stay in or get out of your relationship, Plume Books $13.95

Mathews, Jane. (2005.) Lose That Loser and Find the Right Guy: Stop Falling for Mr. Unavailable, Mr. Unreliable, Mr. Bad Boy, Mr. Needy, Mr. Married Man, and Mr. Sex Maniac, Amorata Press, $12.95.

 

McCann, Eileen (1995). The Two Step: The Dance Toward Intimacy, Evergreen, $12.95.

-       a picture, kind of cartoon book that really nicely illustrates common relationship patterns particularly around intimacy issues; great for couples

 

Ruiz, D. M. (1997. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom. Amber-Allen Publishing. $12.95.

Spring, Janis Abrahms. After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust when a Partner has been Unfaithful. New York: Harper Perennial, 1996.

Spring, Janis Abrahms. After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust when a Partner has been Unfaithful. New York: Harper Perennial, 1996.

·         Wile, Daniel. After the Honeymoon. New York: Wiley, 1988. (an excellent book on how to improve communication in intimate relationships)

  

Schizophrenia

·         Mueser, Kim, & S. Gingerich. Coping with Schizophrenia: A Guide for Families. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1994.

·         Torrey, E. Fuller. Surviving Schizophrenia: A Manual for Families, Customers, and Providers. New York: Harper & Row, 1995.

 

Self-Esteem

 Dodgson, J. (2003). Gifts of the Grandmother. The Spiral Path, Inc. $16.95.

 

·         McKay, Matthew, & P. Fanning. Self-Esteem. Oakland CA: New Harbinger, 1987.

·         Sorensen, Marylyn. Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem. Sherwood, OR: Wolf 1998.

 

Sexuality: Sexual issues in relationships

·         Renshaw, Domeena. Seven Weeks to Better Sex. New York: Random House, 1995.

·         Love, Pat, & J. Robinson. Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking. New York: NAL-Dutton, 1995.

·         Zilbergeld, Bernie. The New Male Sexuality: The Truth About Men, Sex, and Pleasure. New York: Bantam, 1992.

 

Sexual Abuse: Adults abused as children

 

Bass, Ellen & Davis, Laura (1994), The Courage To Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse (3rd Ed) Perennial $22.50.

- Although neither Ellen Bass nor Laura Davis are trained mental health professionals, they developed what is widely considered the "Bible" for adult women who have experienced sexual abuse during childhood. Some critics have argued that their list of "probable" signs of childhood sexual abuse is too inclusive and might mislead some women to needlessly question whether they may have "repressed" memories of such abuse. Even so, their book is a wonderful resource for women who know that they were abused as children. The book offers stories from other "survivors," helpful writing exercises, advice for partners of survivors, and much more.

·         Gil, Eliana. Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused as Children. New York: Dell, 1984.

·         Hunter, Mic. Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse. New York: Fawcett, 1991.

Lew, Michael (2004), Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Child Abuse. Perennial Currents. $19.95.

- This book is an essential resource for the otherwise often overlooked men who have suffered abuse in childhood. The book includes helpful personal accounts from men who have survived childhood abuse, and offers a variety of other useful self-help information.

 

Sexual Addiction

·         Carnes, Patrick. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction. Minneapolis, MN: Compcare, 1983.

·         Carnes, Patrick. Don't Call it Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction. New York: Bantam, 1991.

 

Sexual Assault / Rape

·         Adams, Caren, & J. Fay. Free of the Shadows: Recovering from Sexual Violence. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1989.

 
·         Ledray, Linda. Recovering from Rape. New York: Henry Holt, 1994.

 

McEvoy, et al. (2001). If She is Raped: A Guidebook for Husband, Fathers, and Male Friends. Learning Publications, 3rd Edition. $17.95.

 

Nicarthy, G. (1997). Getting Free: You Can End Abuse and Take Back Your Life. Seal Press. $16.95.

 

  ·         Raine, Nancy Venable. After Silence. New York: Crown, 1998.  

 

Warshaw, Robin. (1994). I Never Called It Rape: The Ms. Report on

Recognizing, Fighting, and Surviving Date and Acquaintance Rape. Perennial. $13.00.

 

Sexual Harassment

·         Morris, Celia. Bearing Witness. Boston: Little Brown, 1994

·         Hill, Anita. Strange Justice: The Selling of Clarence Thomas. Boston: Houghton Mifflin, 1994.

 

Shyness / Social Phobia

Antony, M. & Swinson, R. (2000). The Shyness & Social Anxiety Workbook, New Harbiner, $16.95.

          - Comprehensive Workbook.

 

Antony, M. (2004). 10 Simple Solutions to Shyness. New Harbinger. $11.95

-       Nice, little book that covers all the issues.

·         Markway, Barbara, et.al. Dying of Embarrassment: Help for Social Anxiety and Social Phobia. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1992. (a practical workbook with techniques for assessing your fears and working on them)

·         Zimbardo, Philip. Shyness: What It Is and What to Do About It. Reading, MA: Addison Wesley, 1987.

 

Spiritual Issues/Spiritual Confusion

·         Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Wherever You Go There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life. New York: Hyperion, 1994. (using the Buddhist principle of mindfulness to attain physical and mental health)

·         Nhat Hanh, Thich. Peace is Every Step: The Path of Mindfulness in Everyday Life. New York: Bantam, 1991. (a simple explanation of Zen Buddhist techniques of meditation and awareness)

·         Peck, Scott. The Road Less Traveled. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1978.

·         Schwartz, Tony. What Really Matters: Searching for Wisdom in America. New York: Bantam, 1995. (a New York Times journalist's conversations with leading psychologists, philosophers, physicians, and scientists)

 

Stepfamilies

·         Newman, Margaret. Stepfamily Realities: How to Overcome Difficulties and Have a Happy Family. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1994. (a practical guide to adjusting to all aspects of living in a stepfamily)

·         Wolf, Anthony. Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce? And When Can I Get a Hamster?: A Guide to Parenting Through Divorce. NY, Noonday Press, 1998.

 

Trauma and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

·         Matsakis, Aphrodite. I Can't Get Over It: A Handbook for Trauma Survivors. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1992.  

 

Work Issues/ Vocational Stress

·         Bramson, Robert. Coping with Difficult People. New York: Ballantine, 1984

·         Bridges, William. Managing Transitions. New York: Addison Wesley, 1991.

·         Fisher, Roger. Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In. New York: Penguin, 1981.

·         O'Hara, Valerie. Wellness at Work: Building Resilience to Job Stress. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger, 1995. (a blueprint for taking charge of your worklife: identifying and managing stress, improving communications, developing support networks; includes a chapter that deals with work-stress issues that affect women)